Finding the right therapist can feel like a daunting task, but trust me, it’s worth taking the time to get it right. I have been through it. Yes, therapists have therapists! The relationship you build with your therapist can have a huge impact on your well-being, so its imperative that you find someone who feels like the right fit for you. But with so many options out there, how do you choose? Here are some things to think about to help you on your search.
1. Figure Out What You Need
Before you even start looking, take a moment to think about what you actually need from them. Are you struggling with anxiety, depression, trauma, relationship issues, or maybe just looking for some personal growth? Different therapists specialise in different areas, so having a clear idea of what you need can help narrow things down.
2. Check Their Qualifications and Experience
As I found out when I was studying, there are lots of therapists who don’t have any qualifications so it’s important to make sure your therapist is properly trained and accredited. In the UK, look for therapists registered with professional bodies like the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) or the UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP). These organisations set standards for professionalism and ethics. A good therapist will show actively show their professional body number and qualifications.
3. Think About Therapy Styles and Approaches
Therapists use different approaches, like Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Psychodynamic Therapy, Humanistic Therapy, and Person-Centred Therapy. Some mix different styles to suit each client. If you have no idea what any of this mean, don’t worry, it’s always ok to ask a therapist what their approach is and how it might work for you. After all, you are the client.
4. Pay Attention to How You Feel Around Them
This is a BIG one. The relationship between you and your therapist is one of the biggest factors in whether therapy actually works for you. You need to feel comfortable, safe, and able to open up. Some people prefer a warm, gentle approach, while others like a more direct, structured style. Most therapists offer an initial consultation, so use that time to get a feel for whether you click with them. Not one size fits all.
5. Consider the Practical Stuff
You have to be realistic too. Where is the therapist based? Do they offer online sessions if you need flexibility? What are their fees, and do they fit your budget? Some therapists offer sliding scale fees based on your financial situation, so always ask.
6. Read Reviews and Ask for Recommendations.
While therapists can’t share detailed testimonials due to confidentiality, you can still get a sense of their style and approach from general feedback. You could also ask trusted friends, family, or healthcare professionals for recommendations.
7. Trust Your Gut
At the end of the day, this is your journey. If something doesn’t feel right, it’s definitely ok to keep looking. Therapy should be a space where you feel heard, understood, and supported. If, after a few sessions, it’s not clicking, don’t be afraid to switch to someone else who might be a better fit for you.
Final Thoughts
Finding the right therapist might take a little time, but it’s worth it. By thinking about your needs, doing some research, and trusting your instincts, you’ll be able to find someone who can really help you move forward. If you’re on the lookout for a therapist and need some guidance, feel free to get in touch—I’d love to help you find the right support for you.