Christmas in the UK often looks cosy and cheerful from the outside. Twinkly lights, family gatherings, festive adverts everywhere. But for many people, it can also be a time of loneliness, stress, grief, or simply feeling overwhelmed. And if this year feels difficult for you, you’re genuinely not alone.
I’ll be taking a break from 22nd December to 5th January and won’t be seeing clients during that time, so I wanted to offer some gentle, practical ways to help you look after yourself over the festive period.
Take the Pressure Right Down
There’s no rule that says Christmas has to be perfect or full of excitement. If your version is calm, quiet, or simple, that’s completely okay. You don’t have to match anyone else’s expectations, just do what feels manageable and comforting for you.
Make a Gentle Plan
A loose plan can make the days feel less daunting. It might help to think about:
- Who you feel comfortable seeing (if anyone)
- When you’d like some quiet time
- What small things bring you comfort
- What you’d prefer to avoid this year
Nothing strict,just a soft structure to make things feel steadier.
Set Kind, Clear Boundaries
Christmas can come with pressure to attend gatherings, keep the peace, or “push through”. It’s more than okay to protect your energy. You might say:
- “I’m keeping things low-key this year.”
- “I can come for a bit, but not for long.”
- “I need some quiet time today.”
Your wellbeing matters just as much as anyone else’s.
Reach Out (If It Helps)
Loneliness can feel louder at Christmas, so small moments of connection can make a difference. A message, a phone call, or even walking somewhere with other people around. But if your energy is low and you need space instead, that’s perfectly fine too. Choose what feels supportive for you.
Create a Comfort List
It’s helpful to have a short list of things that soothe you, especially when your mind feels foggy. Things like:
- A cosy blanket
- A favourite film or series
- A warm bath
- A walk in fresh air
- Music that lifts or calms you
- A grounding exercise
These little comforts can help you through tougher moments.
Let Your Feelings Be What They Are
Christmas can stir up sadness, grief, frustration, or anxiety. There’s nothing wrong with you if you’re not feeling festive. Your emotions are valid, and you don’t need to hide them or “put on a brave face”. Allowing yourself to feel what you feel can actually make things easier to bear.
Find Moments of Calm
Small, simple moments can make a big difference during an emotional time. Try:
- Slow breathing (in for 4, out for 6)
- Standing outside for a few minutes
- A quiet cup of tea
- Stretching or gentle movement
- Noticing something grounding in your surroundings
These pauses can help you reset when things feel intense.
I’ll Be Back in January
I return to work on 5th January. If you’d like support after the festive period or want to book in for the new year, I’ll be here.
In the meantime, please go gently.
You’re doing your best — and that’s more than enough.
Emotional Support Helplines – Leeds & UK
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📞 Connect Helpline (Leeds)
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