Trauma is a word that gets used quite a bit these days, but what does it actually mean? And how do you know if it’s something you’re carrying around, even if you didn’t have any dramatic moments?

Trauma Isn’t Just About Big Events

Most people think trauma means something really terrible happened, like an accident, abuse, or a big shock. And that’s true, of course. But trauma can also creep in quietly, from the smaller things that don’t always get noticed.

Maybe you grew up feeling unseen, unheard, or unsafe in ways that never got talked about. Or perhaps it’s the everyday stresses that have built up over time until they feel overwhelming. That kind of trauma can still have a big effect on how you feel and relate to others, even years later.

What About Historic Trauma?

Sometimes, trauma isn’t just about what happened directly to you. It can also be passed down through families or communities — this is often called historic or intergenerational trauma.

Think of it like a heavy inheritance of pain or fear, passed silently from one generation to the next. It might show up as patterns of anxiety, mistrust, or difficulties in relationships even if you don’t fully understand why.

Recognising historic trauma can help explain some of the feelings or behaviours that seem hard to shake, and it’s an important part of healing for many people.

How Does Trauma Show Itself?

It’s not always obvious or dramatic. Sometimes it’s things like:

• Feeling anxious or constantly on edge
• Finding it difficult to trust others, or keeping people at a distance
• Struggling with your emotions — either feeling overwhelmed or shut down
• Being really hard on yourself, like you’re never quite good enough

If any of that rings true, it could be trauma quietly influencing your life.

Can You Get Better?

Yes, you absolutely can. Healing from trauma isn’t about “just getting over it” quickly or pretending it never happened. It’s about making room for those parts of you that have been hurt and learning to be gentle with yourself as you find a way forward.

In therapy, we take things at your pace. No rush, no pressure, just a safe, calm space where you can be honest and begin to feel lighter.

How I Work with Trauma

Working with trauma is a gentle, personal process. I create a safe, non-judgemental space where you can explore your experiences at your own pace, no pressure, no rush. Together, we’ll look at how trauma affects your thoughts, feelings, and reactions, and I’ll support you in developing practical tools to manage difficult moments. My approach is flexible and compassionate, tailored to what feels right for you, helping you connect with your inner strengths and find a way forward.

You Don’t Have to Carry It Alone

If you’re fed up with feeling weighed down by something no one else sees, you don’t have to manage it on your own. I’m here to listen, to help you sit with those difficult bits, and support you in finding a bit of peace.

If you’d like to find out more or have a chat about how I might be able to help, I offer a free 20-minute call with no obligation.